Last night’s Ash Wednesday service was wonderful. The message left me feeling ready for this 40-day journey of reflection and action through prayer, helping others, and sacrificial giving. It also led me to consider my attitude further and how a better attitude could lead me to pray more/deeper, truly help others in need, and happily giving sacrificially from my financial resources. How does one gear their attitude in such a way that they gleefully and excitedly do those things (i.e., do those things with a great attitude)?
Last Sunday our first “Staying in Love” DVD lesson from Andy Stanley led us married couples to remember that “love” is not a noun . . . it’s a verb. This means that we choose to demonstrate love to others (especially our spouses). Love is something we do. So, if that is the case, then choosing to love could very well mean choosing to look beyond frustrations, fears, worries, distrust, etc. That would, in turn, create a better attitude for someone, say, like me who worries, gets frustrated, and is afraid of bad things happening, or has trust issues. Choosing to love through all of that could literally be the best attitude adjustment on the planet.
Mind . . . blown . . .
As simple as all that sounds, it’s not as easy as I wish it could be. Just try to love a person who has hurt you and then get past that hurt. Try to love a group of people at church who are constantly complaining and having damaging “parking lot meetings” about an issue instead of working through things constructively. Try loving someone who has broken a trust with you and get past the fear that they will betray you again. Yea, exactly. It is a simple solution that could be one of the most difficult things we every try to do.
However, making a choice to love is an intentional action. I do believe that if we make that choice, the “feeling” of love will follow (and the better attitude). I hate this phrase, but it’s like the whole, “fake it ’til you make it” concept. I don’t think we fake loving someone, but many times the warm fuzzies of loving a person or a concept or a situation comes after you make a conscious choice to love. Your brain leads, your heart follows.
So, today kids, our action of the day is LOVE. Make the choice and watch your good attitude follow!